Having a plan in place – 17/06/2014

So my last post was regarding finding a balance to my work/life health.

And I have to say that it is going very well :)
My financial plans are going smoothly and I am on course to paying for the trip to japan in October.

My work is now easy and manageable and the work load is fairly easy.

I spend my weekends or free time with friends and family and i try to squeeze in a date or two when I can :)

I still do a lot of my reading and learning while I’m free and/or on the train

Gym is great and I’m getting a great work out with a good semi balanced diet.

Everything is going smoothly. I haven’t much complaint :)

I have been doing research to figure what my next reflective blog should be about and it should be ready soon.

Thank you guys for reading. Or no one for that matter haha

Not getting things get to you 01/06/2014

I’ve had certain plans this weekend.
Outrageous shopping at a major mall and also online. A list was created with everything I wanted, and the final element of my plan was waiting to get paid from my work place. Unfortunately, that didn’t work out. My work place failed to pay me…

There’s a saying in this country regarding work and pay and it goes “you should never mess with a guys money”. Make his life miserable at work and give him a lot of hassle but don’t mess with his paycheck…that is afterall why they go to work in the first place.

I thought that not getting paid would bother me, and that I would go on a campaign to get that money paid throughout the weekend. But no, just simple gym, friends and family time this weekend with some leisure game thrown in. I’ve  had a satisfying weekend. I sort out the pay next week and get double so it’s fine.

Shits going to be thrown at you all the time in life; late train, missed payment, no hot water. My opinion for when these things happen is to stay in the moment, focus on the solutions and award yourself with the alternative rewards. Bad stuff are going to go against you for the rest of your life so learn to live with it and don’t let it get to you!

Thanks for reading :).

Juggling Master…NOT! – 18/05/2014

The story of my life nowadays is trying to juggle and balance everything together. Sadly it is something am failing at quite spectacularly.

Just a quick update, i got myself full time work in a insurance company, partly because of money and partly because I’ve been making horrible use of my free time. During my unemployed period, if i wasn’t reading or writing, i was watching TV, walking aimlessly or something else… i felt i was very unproductive, and so if that was the case, i might as well get paid for it.

So the first balance comes from juggling my work life with my ambitions, i still dream of becoming a great writer, and my main job is to not get complacent and subscribe to the”this is all life has to offer”

i am also focusing to make everyday interesting or useful because i don;t want to repeat what happened last time, when all i did was work and BOOM, a year has passed and i have no idea what happened or where my life went.

Things i would like to do are learning Japanese, going to the gym making an effort to learn or study something.

My last balance is my friends and family, i always make an effort to spend time with my family, and my friends but it is increasingly difficult with my friends as they want to play all night but i need to sleep.

Luckily i don’t have a girlfriend otherwise that would be another thing i have to juggle. I do get lonely sometimes, thoughts do turn to my time with my ex and the intimate things we did together…but i might have just been horny. So save the headache. If i did meet a girl though i would love to date again and move in with her, but lets not get ahead of myself.

The African girl i was previously dating. Well she wants a relationship and i was honest and told her i wasn’t looking for one, so we went our separate ways. That’s fine, i rather do that than someone get hurt. I’m not actively looking for anybody right now but i don’t mind some attention. life huh

Financially i am fine, money is coming in,i have savings and once my uncle returns, i expect he be wanting to take on projects which i will have to balance with my employment work. we shall see :)

Thank you for reading

Avoiding Negativity at all cost!

“You must not under any pretense allow your mind to dwell on any thought that is not positive, constructive, optimistic, kind.
Read more at” – Emma Fox

There is no doubt what so ever that every single one of us at some point in our lives has perceived life to be a struggle; a uphill battle to achieve goals, regain balance and minimize stress.

It is the beautiful adventure of humans beings to be able to cope, manage and effectively overcome our struggles in the hope of a more better life. But there are times when things get tough…when the problem can be overwhelming, unbearable and we just want to shut out the world and lay in bed until forever.

Trust me, I’ve been there before, and i consider myself  an optimist! :)

I see life as a roller coaster of ups and downs and as i sit here thinking about the struggles in my life; where I’ve broken down and drove myself crazy. I also remember the good times; moments of bliss and happiness where i felt free and invincible.

Life will get tough, and for some people, it is always going to be a everyday story. But that battle doesn’t get easier with the amount of negativity going on around the world through the media, television, internet and even our friends and family!

Occasionally when I’m on a train or in a queuing up in a store to resolve an errand, i like to check in with my facebook and twitter account – see “whats happening”. And i notice of people complaining  whats going on in their lives:

“hate two face people, i wish they all die!”

“the cooker won’t start, i want to smash the thing in!”

“i hate *certain types of people with general description*, they make me sick”

” if you are into *this or that* then you are *cool or uncool*”

It seems that complaining rigorously or “ranting”  on social media nowadays seems to be a acceptable thing to do, surely the purpose or social media was connect people together and not to tell the world about your broken oven :S

Aside from all the negativity from your friends, i noticed you can now get  media news  and video feeds directly to your news feed   because you signed up to it or because one of your friends shared it. And to be honest, a lot of the things people share are general something negative too!

I hope i don’t sound like I’m complaining because that would be hypocritical :), it is merely an observation and i am noticing it a lot now.

Exposing yourself to negative surroundings, either on your phone or in the real world may not be significant on a single basis but constantly seeing, hearing and having to get invovled in negativity too much will definitely begin to wear you down and drain you mentally and spiritually.

If we are currently in a state where the world is giving us a headache, and everybody else is perpetuating that, it would take us much longer to get out of that downward cycle and getting happy again, it has happened to me on so many occasions!

So if you have been feeling down a lot lately, and your environment is not helping. Then I invite you to consider if you have any negative elements in your life. It could be friends, lover, family, social networks, newspaper, television and consider appropriate solutions or responses so that you don’t get attached or involved to their negativity.

Thank you for reading :)

 

 

 

 

Moving Mountains 10/04/2014

what happens when a very important package you send goes missing, and add to that, you lost the tracking number?

I assume a normal person would call customer service, be told that they can’t do anything without the tracking and have to wait and hope they
their package would reach their destination.

Well not me…

For the last week, i can only describe myself as the hero in the movie “Taken”
except for the fighting, killing and substitute the girl been sold for slavery for a package :).

It has been an emotional week for i have done everything inside and outside of my capabilities and will power to find this package.

researching postal systems, Sleepless nights, mum harassing me 24/7, twitting and bribing people for info and to get into depots(works really well!). It has been a hard working yet fascinating week.

Eventually, the issue was escalated to the managing director(whom i spoke with directly) and another two days of sleepless worry, we found it!

Without my relentless intervention and deepsight investigation, we would have lost that package forever, for you see, the package rolled the conveyor belt and was lost under the machine, no one would have been able to find it unless they started a full search which they did thanks tome :)

Everybody is happy now, we celebrated with cinema, junk food and a high end Chinese restaurant :).

This week, i developed a moving mountain mentality, motivated not from ambition, goals or passion but from a sense of urgency, a life or death situation to which i have never experienced before. It was painful to live day in and out with the discomfort and uncertainly of if you ever find the package, but i definitely learned a lot about my character and my weaknesses… i am a very weak person mentally in these kind of situations.

Great insight, a lot of options to evolve and better myself.

Thank you for reading!

A Great starter – 21/03/2014

It has been a long time since Ive written a blog, i hope i haven’t lost interest in it but i have been busy doing much(and busy doing nothing occasionally).

Just to let you guys know i finally finished my novel:) its been given to my publisher and I’m awaiting a response. I know my weakness as a writer and i don’t expect it to get accepted. I’m juts happy to finish a book and complete something.

I’ve also written an Ebook with my business partner and we created a website around it to sell the product. A great completion as well.

Both achievements are a great milestone for me considering that I’m great at starting projects but very poor at finishing them. Not just writing and business, but also everything else like games lol

My next project is to write a travel article for my holiday to vietnam, im going away to iceland soon and i have a new date who might invite me to Holland. Yes that’s right, i have a new date. She is very different from most girls that i date, culturally and racially. She is very attractive and we get along very well. I have to say though, she plays very hard to get with her “30 day rule” and i’m happy to oblige, countering that with my “60 day rule” lol.

Although its only been 10 days, i know she wants to move things forward physically so it be fascinating to see how things go. Personally I’m happy to take my time and just enjoy her company, i respect her whatever happens.

I’m still jobless out of choice, my business opportunity and translating jobs keep me busy although i still can’t shake off the whole” unemployed” tick playing at the back of my mind. Its as if i feel like an deformed outside with everybody judging me, wondering why I’m not working. My pet hate now is people asking me “you got a job yet?”. That kind of pressure has forced me to update my CV and apply for night and part time jobs. These are the only jobs i can tolerate so lets see what happens.

For this year, it is a balance of money, time, family and writing – A hard balance I’m having difficulty maintaining.

Well lets see what happens.

Thank you for reading :)

 

Daily life in vietnam – 29/01/2014

Maybe its because im on holiday and im a guest, but I really love life here! The drinking, the company, the relaxing, the sun( and not to mention my family’s house is astonishingly  similar to a hotel).
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New year is eve is today and as many of you know, fireworks are going to be the main attraction tonight and thanks to my seven floor “hotel” I would get the perfect view mixing in with the hussle of the crowd.

As it is the new years, I haven’t been going out too often seeing as everybody is busy for the new year and most shops are closed.

Its interesting to observe because in a western society, new year’s main events are the fireworks, the clubbing and interesting new year things to watch on tv.

Oriental new year takes days of work and preparation before the actual new year and everybody gets stuck in; food has to be ready for pray, visiting ancestors in graves, buying special plants and blossom trees and cleaning up the house from tip to toe. New years in oriental society from the rich to the poor, seems to be more about cleaning up and preparing the new year with a fresh start… literally some would say.

I am here for another two weeks and my main priority as of right now is enjoyment and relaxing. Because boy, there is a lot of stuff to do when I get back…

Thank you for reading :)

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